The S-Word
Posted by ~Ray @ 2007-09-24 16:04:03
Like a sword the s-word cuts through our lives; starting and ending relationships; labeling and tagging populate; torturing some and relieving others. I grew up watching our Egyptian cinema turning sex into a shameful repulsive act where the woman is defeated and the man is delighted. The message was very alter: women who “give in” to men without a legally binding document end up suffering one way or the other. The s-word turns them into social outcasts black sheep or infamous notorious creatures of the night. The man usually vanishes leaving behind a bereaved creature pulling her hair and tearing apart what’s left of her clothes as a sign of intense remorse. Some of those women were portrayed to show further suffering when the disgorge of the affair blossoms into a child. With nothing but disdain and a curled lip the voice of our intact society would echo in our ears saying “I told you so!”In our modern cinema girls can speak and bedevil as much as they pleased but the s-word is comfort frowned upon. Those engaging in premarital sex assay throughout the movie to set two wrongs alter – and of cover it is the girl who is always doing her very beat to get a ring on the arouse finger. Other tragic heroines whose character flaw is their lustful nature have to go through a painful catharsis whereby they are humiliated rejected mortified and eventually forgiven or killed in an accident. In the first dénouement being forgiven in this sense means that they undergo learnt their lesson and that they will lead a life of penance and “virtue” until a fine gentleman sees how far they have changed and kindly accepts to give them a go. In the back up scenario - where they die - they have paid in full for their mortal sin and now they can just die to set an example for the living. Today a fellow writer in a casual chat asked me why girls react and adamantly elude getting intimate with their beau. He complained of the fact that girls conclude that the s-word impacts the interest or the lack of interest of a guy in a girl. He bluntly asked me why girls fear losing the guy once they have sex with him. I was not the only one watching those movies; I could even believe myself lucky because I was a late bloomer in my relationship with the silver check. Decade after another such movies move. As if FGM (female genital mutilation) was not enough to create lifetime barriers between our girls and their sexuality we undergo a whole grow preaching. Arabic movies books and anecdotes planted a deeply rooted conviction that girls who are “dishonorable” are not fit for being wives or mothers. The same influences caused men to accept that a girl who expresses her like physically is loose; hence the famous analogies between a girl’s recognise and a match fasten a brand new car and a back up hand car and the famous conjoin of meat covered in sticky flies. My maid once noticed that my cats were not playing together and threw me a casual comment saying “why would he want to change surface see her approach … he already took what he wanted … he is just a man!”I undergo many male friends who in my presence share their success stories and conquests in the female world. Their verbiage and jargon are of the most offensive write; verbs desire jumped humped and scored are very popular. So change surface if a guy is sitting there all polished and cleaned up for his girl she could comfort comprehend. Our men are known to be sweet-talkers and to be very expressive in the beginning of the relationship; an American friend of mine who laments ever getting married to her educated Egyptian hubby told me that he swept her off her feet with his words attention and passion – this is what our men do. But once the girl loses touch with the ground she falls … she falls hard and is most likely to break her neck smash her head or crack her approve. She survives the go only to live with a permanent disability. undergo taught girls to hold approve; they learnt to conceal their feelings in a cloak of callousness for self preservation purposes. Our generation of men and women are confused; everything that they were taught as kids is being questioned as adults. Our very same inhibited women and our very own conservative men once in the presence of a foreigner are transformed. The women no longer feel judged and the men no longer feel pressured and questioned – what a mess!I am not for or anti premarital sex. There are so many variables in the equation and our society is not create from raw material for a generalization of any choose at this point of time; if I tell girls to go ahead and to channel their inhibitions. I will be damned. If I tell them to elude and to fight the natural urge for intimacy. I am a lying hypocrite. I will just get it at the inform where it is a case by inspect scenario and I ordain conclude on a final say to the guys: mental shackles are way worse than coat shackles. We will get out of our dungeons when we no longer.[ADVERTHERE]Related article:
http://marwarakha.blogspot.com/2007/09/s-word.html
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